What If I’m Mistaken? Embracing the Possibility of Being Wrong
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Chapter 1: The Courage to Question
How frequently do you ponder, “What if I’m mistaken?” This can pertain to countless aspects of life: the educational choices you've made, the partner you chose, your beliefs, or even your career path.
One reason we might avoid this question is that we fear the potential answers. Alternatively, we might already know the truth but choose not to confront it. Ignoring this inquiry won’t eliminate its significance. Simply posing the question won’t alter your circumstances, but it could lead you to profound insights. It may present a chance to amend a poor decision or bring you a sense of tranquility. Alternatively, it might confirm that you were correct all along.
The takeaway is that this question shouldn’t intimidate you—so go ahead and ask it.
Section 1.1: The Spectrum of Opinions
Everyone holds opinions, but the intensity of those beliefs varies widely. Some people feel compelled to voice their thoughts at every opportunity, while others remain reticent. Disagreements can lead to the end of friendships for some, while others find a way to coexist despite differing views. Reflect on where you fit within this spectrum.
Personally, I have strong feelings about certain issues but prefer to keep them to myself unless prompted. I’ve ended relationships due to differing opinions in the past, yet I’m learning to embrace the concept of agreeing to disagree. This ability to respect opposing views signifies personal growth.
For a long time, admitting I was wrong felt impossible. I’d like to believe I’ve improved, but perhaps I’m just less vocal now. If I withhold my opinions, I can avoid confrontation and, consequently, the possibility of being wrong. This is likely a form of avoidance.
Section 1.2: The Fear of Being Wrong
There have been instances where I’ve been undeniably incorrect—loudly so. Trust me, being both wrong and vocal about it is far from pleasant.
But why do we struggle with the notion of being wrong? I think it stems from fear: fear of appearing foolish, fear of judgment, and fear of losing credibility. The student who hesitates to answer a question in class due to the fear of being incorrect often grows into the adult who remains silent in meetings for the same reason. I’ve been that individual.
Realizing you’re wrong is not catastrophic; it can be a stepping stone for personal growth and learning. If you discover you're headed in the wrong direction, wouldn’t it be wiser to correct your course rather than stubbornly continue just to avoid admitting fault?
In late 2016, during my job search in Contract Administration, I had to face the fact that I was mistaken in thinking I could thrive as an entrepreneur. This was a clear case of being loudly wrong, but to maintain my well-being, I needed to pivot. Acknowledging my mistake turned out to be a valuable lesson; being wrong doesn’t have to be a disastrous experience.
Chapter 2: The Power of Reflection
Asking yourself, “What if I’m wrong?” encourages a deeper examination of your circumstances. What’s wrong with that? In our rush to find answers, many settle for the quickest solutions, which aren’t always the best.
So, what if you’re incorrect? The reality is, you might be—and that’s perfectly okay.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. Before I wrap up, let me share a thought from George Soros: “Once we realize that imperfect understanding is the human condition, there is no shame in being wrong, only in failing to correct our mistakes.”
Until next time!