My Initial Attempts at Disappearing

When I first encountered the notion of disappearing to return as a renewed individual, I naively thought I could simply vanish and re-emerge transformed.

Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case. Instead, I wasted a year of my life.

So, I attempted it again the following year, and then again. Each time, I gradually uncovered what it truly takes to alter my identity.

With each return, I noticed that people were increasingly astonished by the changes they observed in me.

I returned healthier.

I exuded newfound confidence.

I developed a better sense of style and charm.

I was steadily becoming the man I had always wanted to be.

The pressing question is: how did I accomplish this?

#1: Embrace a 12-Week Year

Have you ever noticed how you start the year with immense enthusiasm, only to fizzle out by February?

I used to be in that same boat.

The problem with setting arbitrary yearly goals is that every failure means waiting another year to try again.

What if, instead, you could reset your goals every 12 weeks?

If you stumble, you'd have four opportunities each year to make adjustments rather than just one.

This approach marked my initial step toward returning as a transformed individual.

Consider each week as if it were a month.

Treat each day as if it were a week.

You wouldn't skip the gym for an entire week.

You wouldn't neglect your studies for a week.

You wouldn't opt for sleeping in for a week.

So, if you wouldn’t do those things for a week, why would you allow them today?

#2: Focus on Three Main Goals During Your 12-Week Year

Right now, you might be attempting to juggle too many objectives, akin to a nation in a massive war.

What happens? You end up losing.

Instead, be strategic. Identify three goals to focus on and commit to them until they are accomplished.

During your 12-week year, choose three objectives to concentrate on wholeheartedly, then move on to step three.

#3: Identify the 80/20 Principles for Your Goals

When your gas tank is running low, what’s your first action?

You fill it up.

Putting gas in is the only thing that will make your car go.

Not washing it, not changing the oil, and not checking the tires—just gas.

The same principle applies to your goals: only a few actions will genuinely advance you toward your objectives.

These are known as your 80/20 actions.

To pinpoint these, ask yourself: what minimal actions could I take to completely fail at achieving my goal?

For instance, if I wanted to avoid becoming fit, I’d remain sedentary, indulge in unhealthy foods, and skip workouts.

If I actively choose the opposite, I can be quite certain my plan will succeed.

Now, apply this same logic to your three goals in your 12-week year, and turn these actions into daily habits.

#4: Monitor Your Progress

You’ve determined your goals and the actions needed to reach them.

Now, the final step is to track how well you execute these habits and gauge your progress towards becoming a new version of yourself.

A word of caution: when I first attempted to change, I failed for months.

It wasn’t until I learned to start small that I began to see results.

In the first month of your 12-week year, focus on manageable beginnings, like lifting light weights at the gym.

Why? The initial month is about forming habits, not just achieving significant progress.

Once you've established a solid routine, you can gradually increase the intensity over the next couple of months.

Just as an aircraft doesn’t make steep climbs immediately after takeoff, you should also ease into your new habits.

For example, my gym routine looked like this:

• Month 1: 15-minute workouts every other day.
• Month 2: 15-minute workouts daily.
• Month 3: 30 minutes daily.
• Month 4: 1.5 hours daily.

Had I jumped straight to 1.5-hour workouts, I can almost guarantee I would have quit.

Apply this gradual increase to all the habits tied to your three goals.

The Process of Transformation

If you're eager to disappear and return as a new man, the strategy is surprisingly straightforward.

Follow these steps:

1. Treat each week as if it were a month to establish a 12-week year.
2. Concentrate on three main goals.
3. Identify the 80/20 actions for those goals.
4. Start small and monitor your progress.

By adhering to this plan, you can become fit, a talented writer, stylish, and charismatic.

Stick to the blueprint, and you can transform into the person you've always wanted to be.

The first video titled "What 'Disappearing for a Year' Actually Looks Like" explores the reality of personal transformation and the steps involved.

The second video titled "What Disappearing For A Year Actually Looks Like" provides insights into the journey of self-reinvention and the processes that lead to meaningful change.